tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post1612818176148401905..comments2023-09-11T08:47:24.641-04:00Comments on Wedding Planning in Exile: The universe does not accept returns on family membersBride in Exilehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08842191847941847564noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-75176381785569004752009-06-05T09:25:18.340-04:002009-06-05T09:25:18.340-04:00Oh I am sorry to hear about this situation and the...Oh I am sorry to hear about this situation and the potential drama. My husband's stepdaughter got married last summer. M had asked Chris to walk her down the aisle a year before the wedding. <br /><br />I (who is not The Other Woman -- I met Chris five years after he and M's mother split) did not meet M until last spring. I wanted to hear all about her wedding plans, but she was reluctantAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-41194678603360732722009-06-04T20:45:59.090-04:002009-06-04T20:45:59.090-04:00Thanks for all of the support, guys! Fortunately,...Thanks for all of the support, guys! Fortunately, my parents do civil in public extremely well -- less than three months after they split up, they managed to be perfectly polite to each other at my senior piano recital. What they do less well at is leaving "the kids" out of it when they're frustrated or mad at each other. My big fear is that one of them will rush into my dressingBride in Exilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08842191847941847564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-33897394363378302022009-06-04T20:13:27.151-04:002009-06-04T20:13:27.151-04:00ugh- wrong post. I was going to also say in respon...ugh- wrong post. I was going to also say in response to THIS post-- sorry to hear about your troubles, I know exactly where you're coming from. Seriously, if you can, lay down the law on acceptable/unacceptable public wedding behavior. Its only fair that they be civil to one another at your wedding, at least the best they can manage!Words and Steelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03410537408217066331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-17303685257079397772009-06-04T20:11:49.268-04:002009-06-04T20:11:49.268-04:00ah- two standby wines for me too! Goats do Roam is...ah- two standby wines for me too! Goats do Roam is great- one of the most consistent South African wines available widely in the US (along wit Mulderbosch). <br /><br />The Pacific Rim Riesling's been off my list since last year. I heard Bonny Doon sold partially or entirely, and as such don't know how their wines will do in the long run :( bummer, because it's been one of my standby Words and Steelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03410537408217066331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-84206508110431069492009-06-04T19:54:59.836-04:002009-06-04T19:54:59.836-04:00Just remember that while you can't mandate how...Just remember that while you can't mandate how your parents behave towards eachother, you can make request as to how they behave towards you. If you want polite, they should do polite. If you want direct, they should do direct. It's the least they can do as grownups.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-7830807292899152272009-06-04T17:55:02.518-04:002009-06-04T17:55:02.518-04:00Oh my goodness... it's like you're repeati...Oh my goodness... it's like you're repeating my story (without the other woman). I've been struggling with the ups and downs of having two families just on my side of the wedding and hate how awkward it has become. J's situation is similar to Econo Boy's. Hang in there! Fingers crossed that everyone behaves on wedding day!!Abbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05781496893928005690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2256925338220785394.post-65695231894899643972009-06-04T14:56:58.497-04:002009-06-04T14:56:58.497-04:00Oh hon, I am so sorry you have to deal with this! ...Oh hon, I am so sorry you have to deal with this! I get jealous of the mister's mostly functional family too, but you are right that the sanest thing to do is accept the lots that we are given. I don't know the answer to the "how do you cope" question because I don't think I've been that great at it, although I do think that the public consciousness raising that are all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com